YOU DON’T HAVE TO BE UNFORTUNATE

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It has become quite common to hear miscreants, especially from the South Western part of Nigeria throw around the phrase “Don’t be unfortunate” when subtly warning someone not to do the unexpected, especially when much is expected of the person being cautioned. Unfortunately, this phrase is often used carelessly, and more often than not, it comes across as a strong and severe warning. It’s not just a passing remark; it carries a weight that suggests serious consequences. The message is clear: a life of peace is not guaranteed for anyone who disregards such a warning. The underlying implication is that failure to heed this advice may lead to unfortunate circumstances—sometimes far more severe than anticipated.

 

Meanwhile, when we look up the word “unfortunate,” the dictionary describes it as “not favored by fortune,” “unsuccessful,” “unlucky,” or “unsuitable.” Synonyms such as “calamitous,” “catastrophic,” and “disastrous” are also thrown into the mix. Simply put, every definition of the word points to something negative, something undesirable.

This expression, rooted in the Yoruba saying “ma ya oloriburuku,” serves as a powerful reminder, warning others to avoid actions that may bring bad luck or ill fate to them.

I feel deeply compelled in my spirit to use this same phrase, “Don’t be unfortunate,” as it may serve as a powerful signal and a serious warning to my readers. It’s a caution not to embark on the following actions, for doing so could lead to consequences that will impact your future and shape your legacy in ways you may not foresee. These are:

  • Digging into someone else’s downfall to elevate yourself: This is one of the most damaging actions we can take. Seeking someone’s failure to boost your own success is not only morally wrong, but it is also a shortcut that rarely leads to genuine fulfillment. If this sounds familiar, it’s time to stop and reflect. Retrace your steps, correct your path, and remember: don’t be unfortunate.
  • Leadership with integrity: If you’re given the responsibility to lead, do it with your conscience intact. Lead with kindness, fairness, and honesty. Being in a position of power is a privilege, not a right. Use it wisely, and always remember to guide others with the heart of a servant. Don’t be unfortunate in how you lead.
  • Betraying someone’s trust: When someone confides in you, their vulnerability is a gift. Don’t betray that trust by spreading their personal issues. This kind of behavior is not just unfortunate, but it’s a violation of trust that can cause real harm. Protect what’s shared with you, and remember: don’t be unfortunate.
  • Leading someone on in a relationship when you know you’re not committed: Leading someone on just for personal gain is unfair, both to the person and to yourself. Hearts aren’t like locomotive engines that can be directed wherever you want. Sit down, have an honest conversation, and let them go if that’s what’s best for them. It’s never too late to make things right. Don’t be unfortunate.
  • Taking credit for someone else’s work: It’s tempting at times to claim someone else’s ideas or hard work as your own, especially in a competitive environment. But this only tarnishes your reputation and brings bad energy your way. Acknowledge the efforts of others and give credit where it’s due. Remember, success built on the backs of others’ labor is hollow and short-lived. Don’t be unfortunate by stealing or claiming what isn’t yours.
  • Engaging in harmful gossip or rumors: Spreading negativity or getting involved in gossip can have far-reaching consequences. It often hurts people in ways we don’t immediately see and damages trust within communities. Be mindful of your words and actions—there’s no need to fuel rumors or spread toxic talk. Don’t be unfortunate by participating in negativity.
  • Not standing up for what’s right: Silence in the face of injustice or wrongdoing can be just as harmful as participating in the wrong action. When you witness something that isn’t right, whether it’s bullying, discrimination, or mistreatment, your voice matters. Standing up for others, even when it’s uncomfortable, is a sign of strength and integrity. Don’t be unfortunate by staying silent when your voice can make a difference.

As we move into a new year, let’s embrace the hope that 2025 holds for us. It’s a time for new beginnings, growth, and positivity. So, let’s make a conscious effort to be better, kinder, and more thoughtful in our actions.

DON’T BE UNFORTUNATE.

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